No matter how hot she is, someone somewhere is sick of her crap.

I read this on a bumper sticker years ago and it has stuck with me. The saying proves true whether you are male or female!! We all have our freaky flaws which seem to become more visible the closer we get to each other. I have quoted this saying to more young guys getting married than I can count. I use it to help discourage them from running around on their wives when the “newness” wears off.

God made women attracted to men and men attracted to women. This is a simple fact of being human. But that doesn’t mean it needs to dictate how we make decisions.

If you are married, you need something bigger than the ring on your finger, or the wedding album on the shelf to keep you your eyes or your heart from wandering. There needs to be something you can pull from that will keep your heart true when the hottie in the short dress comes walking by or the new guy in accounting wants to have lunch and hear all about your problems. We need something we can stand on, hide in and run to when our will fails!

Hear me people, I am married but not dead. I know the opposite sex is lovely and amazing. But what are you doing to keep your eyes not on the prize you don’t have but on the prize you do?

Here are some very practical things I do to keep myself in check

• I am intentional about where I sit at Starbucks. I sit in a place with my back to the restaurant and normally face a wall. This keeps my eyes from wandering. I know myself and how prone I am to look that second time
• I avoid certain places at the lunch hour. There is a local outdoor mall that my clients like to have lunch at. I avoid the place like the plague. The ladies are dressed to kill and the guys are on the hunt. I steer clear and simply avoid the problem all together.
• Don’t lie to yourself about relationships with the opposite sex. Lunch, coffee, flirty emails…cut that crap out!! It is a slippery slope and you will quickly find yourself sliding. End it
• Most important of all, you need to know who you are in Christ. You need to be in a fluid, dynamic and growing relationship with God Himself. If you know who you are in Christ, you will have no trouble telling Satan to stick his stupid ideas of infidelity, emotional or otherwise, right up his butt.

What are some ways you avoid the problem of a wandering eye?

There is a discussion at Sarah’s blog today regarding ways to avoid the trap of an emotional affair. Go chime in!!